"Ugly Truth"

Went to the movies lastnight to watch the Ugly Truth. Had no Idea what it was about, heard it was hilarious and I aslo heard it wasn't any good. Well I got everything I didn't want to see thrown right in my face. It's the perfect display of how our society sees men & women's roles and how we accept them as they are. The gender roles were played to a perfect reflection of society and making lite of it by humorization doesn't set well with me. It shows us how normalized the behaviors of Men against women are and that people are so accepting of it that they don't realize the damage it does. It had a character in there that was a man who exploited women as not good for anything but sex, and feeding to the mens already skewed believe of women as only sexual objects. The movie was a perfect example to the perception of -men only think of women as sexual objects! So therefore to make lite of what we (us in the movement) are fighting to end just perpetuates this already corrupt thought process that it's normal for men to only lust and fantasize over women's bodies, because that's all they're good for! This whole acceptance, and desensitation plays a huge role one men's view of women and contributions to sexual violence. If men view women as sexual objects, or only good for sex then they feel that women "want" it, or they have the right to womens bodies. This idea feeds into victim blaming- "if she wouldn't have worn that, then that wouldn't have happened" Well if Men wouldn't think of women as sexual objects then what she's wearing is irrelevant and they wouldnt feel like "she was asking for it" ... btw ITS NEVER THE VICTIMS FAULT. Not to mention, this guy that exploits the women during the whole movie- is doing it because he's been betrayed by women! Therefore taking his actions against women, and making it their fault. Another way of showing how men do not hold themselves accountable for their actions or behaviors because they've become so accustom to blaming others!(women in this case).. Have you ever thought if you've been through a ton of girlfriends, that maybe you're the problem? Not the women! I mean, Hello! They also have the female character (which I loved in Grey's Anatomy - Izzy) playing for one guy, but falls for the other. They had her feeding into the Men's idea that Women are suppose to be subordinant and sexually convienant for them. She started out as a good girl an realizing this guys misogynistic traits, but in the end falling for him. Another portrayal of how "women only go for bad guys" - which completely destroys our whole socialization structure in relationships. Now i'm not denying that they hit the nail on the head with the portrayal of how our society views mens & womens roles, but they also contributed to the acceptance of them- the audience told me that as well by laughing at very inconvienant times. The more accepting and the more society keeps normalizing the behavior- the harder and longer it's going to be before we see a reduction in sexual violence or violence period.