Shifting Responsibility.

We live in a society where you have much emphasis on safety, self-protection, and responsibility for yourself. However, it seems that we do not require that same self-responsibility when it comes to holding perpetrators of sexual violence responsible or accountable. Society tends to believe collectively, especially in the eyes of law enforcement, that the perps time imprisoned is how they're being held responsible. Which, in some sense, is true.. Yet, this is after the fact.

Combine victims of sexual assault with this skewed perception of self-responsibility or lack there of, and readily in every case of not evident restraint (and even in those cases) the victim is who draws the most focus for being responsible. We all know the typical accusations of blame that people place on the victim (she was wearing a short skirt, she shouldn't have drank that much, she led him on, etc, etc, etc.). The one that probably is most destructive in my opinion is when they claim the victim "had a choice". "They chose to go to his room," "They chose to get drunk," or the latest, in the case of the 11-year-old raped in Cleveland, Tx "she chose to go that house with them boys". These fault implications are said in a manner of completely disregarding the fact that the perpetrator has a choice too. A choice, in which if is made right we don't even have anything to discuss! I think it's important to point out too that if the victim of a sexual assault is a male, the same victim-blaming tactics aren't constructed. Is this another, unfortunate, yet still plausible display of male privilege?

Society needs to begin making a more conscious effort of placing self-responsibility for ones actions on the perpetrators of those actions. Holding people to a responsibility of proper choice can aid in prevention of sexual violence. Does it matter if she wore a short skirt? No. Does it matter the victim was kissing a person's neck, and hand their hands inside of the other person's pants? No. When we place all of the focus on the victims, it shadows the behaviors by the perpetrators that need to be projected into the focal point of our discourse. Extremely problematic is this cycled perception by society that perpetrators need to have consequences, but it's still the victim who caused it. When we imply that perpetrators have no control over themselves we are leaving no room for hope of solving the problem. Sadly, the popular belief is there isn't any hope. Those of us that work in the field however, are not that passive and are well aware that this issue is not inevitable.

It’s simple. Stop. Blaming. The. Victim!




To reinforce the message that dress doesn’t matter, and sexual violence isn’t the victims fault; there are a number of “Slut Walks” going on around the nation. It began with some amazing women in Toronto, and is now spreading through the states. I just recently had seen a post for one that will be in Dallas on April 23rd, from 1-3 pm. http://www.pegasusnews.com/news/2011/apr/11/slut-walk-dallas-april-23/ Look for one near you, because it’s NEVER the victims fault!

Carleton Sexual Assault Centre & The Ally Project

As we all know Sexual Violence is a pervasive problem around the world! It doesn't exclude one country, just as it doesn't discriminate against a certain race, socioeconomic status, or person.

Social networking has become a vivid part of promoting, raising awareness, and just everyday life in the the movement to end sexual violence. I've gathered many excellent resources via social networking, have came in contact with, and have met some amazing allies that are doing tremendous work. Just recently (via Twitter) I connected with a woman named Julie Lalonde, who is a co-creator of The Coalition for a Carleton Sexual Assault Centre. The Coalition for a Carleton Sexual Assault Centre advocates on behalf of the voices of Carleton students to develop a student-run, university-funded, sustainable, and accessible Sexual Assault Centre (SAC) on Carleton University’s campus (http://carleton-sasc.ca/).

Julie, a profound activist, advocate, feminist, and voice for ending sexual violence & I crossed paths due to the "The Ally Project". The Ally Project is an initiative put together by the Coalition for a Carleton Sexual Assault Centre. Check out their You Tube channel here: http://www.youtube.com/user/CoalitionforCU The Ally Project is calling out to all men, and non-gender identified peole to share their stories, and speak out against gender-based violence.


The Ally Project was the motivation & inspiration behind the launch of Step Up's "It's Time to Get Involved. Men. Speak. Out." Campaign for Sexaul Assault Awareness Month. We want to thank Julie, The Coaltion for a Carleton Sexual Assault Centre & The Ally Project for their efforts in not only engaging men, but also setting an example, and being a leader to other organizations - including Step Up!

From child to adult, person to person. From city to city, state to state. From border to border, country to country. We're all in this together, and together we can make a difference! If you have a voice, it's time to use it. Step Up, and become an Ally!

Please submit your video's for "The Ally Project" here: coalitionforcarleton@gmail.com

It's Time...to Get Involved! Men. Speak. Out.

As you may know April is Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month (SAAPM). This year's theme from the National Sexual Violence Resoure Center (nsvrc.org) is "It's Time to Get Involed!"






This theme correlates perfectly with the mission of Step Up, and the movement to prevent sexual violence. It is definitely time for Men to get involved in the prevention of sexual violence.

To promote this years NSVRC theme in conjunction with Sexaul Assault Awareness and Prevention Month; Step Up is engaging men to get involved with a 'Men Speak Out' campaign.

If you're a man who doesn't condone violence against women, and believes that we have a role to play in ending it; then please share with us your thoughts in a short video. It can be 20 seconds, or 5 minutes.

Please submit videos to StepUpAgainstViolence@hotmail.com Your video will be posted on Step Up's You Tube, Facebook, and Twitter. We will also use your videos to encourage other men to become involved in ending Sexual Violence. By speaking out, we're saying that we do not agree with behaviors that foster, and perpetuate sexual violence. Remember, silence = acceptance. Please use your voice!

"Every time a man's voice joins those of women in speaking out against rape, the world becomes safer for us all!" - MenCanStopRape.org


It's Time to Get Involed, Men! Together We Can Make A Difference! Step Up!